Today we’re talking about three tips for shaking off crystal critics and boosting your confidence.
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Do you feel that you are crystal confident?
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Three Tips for Shaking off Crystal Critics
So let’s go ahead and start talking about my three tips here today.
1. Defending your Passion for Crystal Healing
Do you ever feel like sometimes you need to defend your passion for crystals and just your general interest in crystal healing powers against people who try to belittle it or when there’s a lot of skeptics around?
The skit made me think about this topic again. It’s about a woman who walks into a crystal shop and she’s talking to the crystal shop owner. And the shop owner’s displaying all the stereotypical behaviors and catchphrases and quirks and the person who comes in is like, “Oh my God, this is wacko.”
I think it’s hysterical.
However, if you’re sensitive about that sort of thing or might take offense to it, then it might not be your cup of tea. But I think it was quite a laugh. Because we need to be able to laugh at ourselves, right? I mean this person was way over the top with the metaphysical stuff and you know very judgey of the person who came in.
Humor yes, but also Fuel for the Fire?
But you know this sort of comedy can also really feed the skeptics. If you’re a hardcore skeptic you might see this and say “That’s what I’m talking about right there. That’s what you’re into, you wacko.”
That adds more fuel to their fire. It kind of gives us that are into crystal healing a bad rap overall as a group, especially if you don’t know how to see the humor in it. And it can be hard if you don’t know how to defend why you love crystals along with how and why they work so well for many of us.
Because that’s why we’re all attracted to them because we know inherently that they do work.
When you’re able to defend it against people who belittle, or make fun of it, you’re better able to laugh at that, and you feel more confident about the whole thing in general.
So maybe it’s chicken or the egg kind of thing or maybe that’s why I can laugh at it. Then there are many people who do not care what others think at all, and that is wonderful, that’s it, doesn’t affect them, at all. I love that.
However many of us are affected by what others think of us. I’ve got a very good reason why that is, it’s actually hardwired into our brains. It’s an instinctual thing. I’ll explain more in a bit on that.
The bottom line is that we fear others aren’t going to take us seriously.
Are you Hearing this?
That’s a big fear and there’s a good reason for that fear. Whether you have this fear or not, you may be hearing things like:
- What is all this crap?
- How much money did you spend on all these rocks?
- None of this stuff works, when are you going to learn?
- Why are you so gullible?
Or do you have new ones that you’ve recently heard that you’d like to share in the comments below (I like to hear this stuff from you so share with me!)
Does it make you question your crystal fascination?
Does it kind of shake your crystal confidence?
And if it does, I totally get it, because, I’ve been there, I’ve heard it all.
I’ve told this story before, but I’m going to tell it here because it makes sense with this whole topic:
One time I went to the doctor’s office and the doc was using the stethoscope and probing around and checking, looking for my heartbeat and I forgot to take the rocks out of my bra. I’d have rocks in my bra, I know I’m not alone. And I forgot to take them out.
She had a complete and total poker face while I told her that,
“Oh, those are my crystal companions for the day’s energies that I wanted to infuse into my electromagnetic field.”
And she was just, mm-hm, you know, went on to the next thing.
Did I sense negative judgment or was that only my perception? I don’t know but it triggered my ancient reptile brain.
So let’s take a quick detour. The pink area in this diagram shows the basal ganglia and its related systems in your brain. (AKA: the reptile brain.)
We call it the reptile brain because this basal ganglia is the extent of what a lizard has for brain function.
Lizards, snakes, the reptile brain, if you’ve ever had a reptile or worked with reptiles, I did quite a bit, they’re very simple, emotionless beings. And the reptile brain is called that because their brain is in charge of just six things. We call them the six Fs. Fight, flight, food or feeding, fear, freezing up, and fornication. You thought I was gonna say something else, didn’t you? 😉
So these are the basic things, it’s really root chakra stuff right, basic things. But the limbic system is much more powerful than we give it credit for. Yeah, it’s basic stuff but it’s supremely powerful because it goes the furthest back. It’s the part of our brain that has the most ancestral lineage going all the way back.
Back to the story with the doctor, that was uncomfy for me at the time, (yeah, even for me), my reptile brain was alive and well. And I’m not saying it’s eradicated all together now, but alive and well back then and I even find it difficult today to explain why I don’t like to talk on a cell phone.
Resistance and Negative Energy
If someone asks me, “Exactly why don’t you like talking on the cell phone, don’t like to use it so much, or have it around you all the time”, I will get into all the nitty-gritty and the science and all of it. But if no one’s asking, I don’t want to come off as preachy.
Now, if you asked about it, or you’re reading my blog that means you’re here for it, you asked for it, you’re gonna get it. It’s so much easier to discuss our crystal passions with someone who obviously is receptive and wants to learn about it.
But when they’re not receptive to it, or you have a feeling that they’re not receptive to it, how you explain yourself in those situations is not exactly our idea of a good time… because again, it’s hardwired into us, it’s usually met with resistance or a tinge of ridicule and that’s perceived as negative energy by our reptile brain.
Realize it or not, we instinctively try to avoid those situations at all costs.
So it’s not weird and you’re not considered, like “oh my gosh, you’re so not awake.” if you’re thinking, you have no confidence around this stuff.
Tip number one is to ignore your reptile brain.
Something really unconscious like certain scents can activate certain parts of your brain and spark an intense emotion. And our conscious mind isn’t aware and doesn’t process right away why that is. That’s our reptile brain taking over when that happens.
We have a primal-fear response to anything that’s perceived as disapproval. Our ancient reptilian is hardwired in auto-response to avoid any negative judgment being made on us. We want to avoid getting kicked out of the tribe so to speak. Being shunned by the clan, that’s basic root chakra stuff coming up.
Yes, we can learn to move past this and rise above it but it takes consistent work.
As a side note, I’ve found that once we get past the hardwired fear and ancient auto response we can show the courage to just be who we are and defend our stance. The real me is often welcomed with open arms by people you would never expect to welcome it.
My advice is just own it.
Understand and realize it’s reptile-brain stuff and just own it.
Once people know it’s safe to talk to you about crystals you’ll be surprised how many people come out of the woo-woo closet themselves. I had lots of experience with this while I was still a science teacher working in the public school system.
For those of you that don’t know, I used to be a science department chair for 13 years. I have lots of experience with that.
Perhaps you think that people in the academic community would be very closed off to this sort of thing but when it’s last-resort time, many would come to me to ask what crystal work they could do to remedy their issue.
2. Find a Solid Community
This is important. Now some of you are loners and maybe you’re like, “I don’t need no community.” and that’s fine. But even for us loners, of which I am one, once in a while it’s nice to have that solid community along with you, along for the ride.
We all want to feel like we belong to the tribe, right? We just discussed that, so that no one feels vulnerable and like nobody’s on their side.
Being in a group of other like-minded people who are also nuts for the crystals can be so empowering and supportive because they’ve all going through the same stuff as you and you get to pool resources and information and join forces with them and collaborate on stuff.
We need each other because being part of a community also gives us confidence and strength in our beliefs.
This may also mean that you may need to spend less time or remove yourself completely from hanging out with people who are holding you back and won’t accept who you are.
Besides the truly infinite and immeasurable value of having a community is the fact that you get that built-in motivation, built-in inspiration, and accountability partners when you need them. Without that support system in place, you’re going it alone.
It’s hard to go it alone even if you are a seasoned loner, 100% alone. Just to let you know, in my Certified Crystal Healer Course, in addition to your peers and the alumni, you also get reliable mentors I’ve put in place to coach you through. And that’s absent when you go it alone.
Not to mention you can build fabulous, amazing new friendships that spring up from a community like that. It certainly doesn’t have to be my course’s group, there are many out there. On Facebook alone, there are face-to-face live groups you can join.
Join a Group
Be mindful. Don’t go out and join a bunch of different groups at once. This will spread you too thin and you won’t be able to get the most out of any of the groups. Try to find a group, either in person or online, that has these three things going for them.
Here’s what to look for:
- You want mentors who are supportive.
- You also want members who are supportive, I’m sure you know how to figure out if they’re supportive or not. The group should offer motivation and inspiration.
- The group holds positive vibes. They take this seriously with an active moderator. Zero tolerance for gossip or negativity.
As I said, it can be an in-person group that meets regularly or a virtual online one. You can even make one up on your own, but there’s a lot of them out there already. Finding a group like this does wonders for allowing you to be you; encouraging you to grow to your full potential.
Additionally, it builds crystal confidence; working with your crystals and knowing you have this like-minded, high vibe tribe, who has your back.
Of course, we make sure that my group has all that and more in spades.
3. Back it up with Science
I have a healthy amount of confidence in discussing crystal healing. I know that’s because I can explain the science behind how and why the crystals work.
And it’s not just for me, I’ve heard this again and again from our over 1,600 graduates now. That this is where their confidence comes from.
Still, science isn’t always the end-all, be-all. Science doesn’t prove everything or anything but that’s another topic of debate we can get into. 🙂 Despite what some might think there always remains some uncertainty. Science never, 100%, proves anything.
So no, not everything should need a scientific explanation. Nor does everything have one, there are so many things that don’t have scientific explanations and yet they exist. Crystal healing is one of them.
But like it or not, in today’s world, in our society, science is king. Scientific explanations hold mega value.
Being able to explain something scientifically pulls a lot of weight, that’s why people love to get some science in with their metaphysics. I know, I know, this is exactly why my Certified Crystal Healer Course became so popular right away because there were no other courses doing that and so many people came in and it was like,
“Oh my gosh, science with the crystal healing, this is exactly what I need!”
Because again, being a former science teacher and science department head, I can provide that in spades.
Science is the backbone of my course.
When it comes to explaining crystal healing to others, especially if they’re skeptics, we just throw some science at it, and that usually gets them to sit up and listen. It opens the door for a skeptic with respect, a respectful door.
I can help you with tips number two and three. Plus I’ve seen number one, which is “ignore your reptile brain”, come naturally, as a result of providing the science and solid community to my students in my course.
Not to say that you can’t achieve those things on your own without taking my course, you most certainly can. Put your mind to it, put your energy into it, and put your energy towards that goal and you’re going to manifest it.
But if you do want my help, and you want me to help you along on this path as your teacher, registration for my course is open to the public now.
If you’re thinking about it, get in now, because tuition is going to be increasing, because we have to do it, by $500 for our fall term. So if you’re thinking about waiting for it down the line, now is your time and registration’s only open for a short time.
If you’re not on the waitlist and you’d like to get on right now go to hibiscusmoonjoin.com.
I want to wrap this up by giving you two of my favorite quotes to think on all this stuff.
And this is a quote by Arthur Schopenhauer. He’s a German philosopher and he said:
All truth passes through three stages: First, it’s ridiculed. Second, it’s violently opposed. Third is accepted as being self-evident.
And isn’t that true? Isn’t that how all new truths come to be?
One more brilliant quote from my favorite physicist, Nassim Haramein, he said:
We are still in our infancy of exploring and discovering our local environment.
There are people alive today who when they were young were told the universe was many, many times smaller than they’re being told today.
Perhaps this progression will only accelerate when we prove the universe we are in, is only one of an infinite number of other universes in the holo-fractile graphic multiverse.
He’s so deep, I love that guy.
I find getting defensive and negative (as we tend to do because of our reptile brain), gets us nowhere. So let’s forget that reaction. Same with clamming up from lack of confidence. It actually feeds the skeptics.
If we want people to hear us, the music needs to be pleasing, right? Otherwise, they’re going to slam the door and leave. But I also really secretly love it when you can just smack them skeptics around with some science. I absolutely love it. It’s just a little thing that naturally happens, it’s kind of funny, but done respectfully always, so let’s keep it like that.
Now, tell me in the comments how can you action one of these three tips TODAY?