3 Tips for Shaking off Crystal Critics and Boosting Your Confidence

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Today we’re talking about three tips for shaking off crystal critics and boosting your confidence.

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Do you feel that you are crystal confident?

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Three Tips for Shaking off Crystal Critics

So let’s go ahead and start talking about my three tips here today.

 1. Defending your Passion for Crystal Healing

Do you ever feel like sometimes you need to defend your passion for crystals and just your general interest in crystal healing powers against people who try to belittle it or when there’s a lot of skeptics around?

Perhaps you’ve all seen this by now, but there was a recent comedy skit that came out and it went viral on Facebook with the metaphysical online community and beyond.

The skit made me think about this topic again. It’s about a woman who walks into a crystal shop and she’s talking to the crystal shop owner. And the shop owner’s displaying all the stereotypical behaviors and catchphrases and quirks and the person who comes in is like, “Oh my God, this is wacko.”

I think it’s hysterical.

However, if you’re sensitive about that sort of thing or might take offense to it, then it might not be your cup of tea. But I think it was quite a laugh. Because we need to be able to laugh at ourselves, right? I mean this person was way over the top with the metaphysical stuff and you know very judgey of the person who came in.

Humor yes, but also Fuel for the Fire?

But you know this sort of comedy can also really feed the skeptics.  If you’re a hardcore skeptic you might see this and say “That’s what I’m talking about right there. That’s what you’re into, you wacko.”

That adds more fuel to their fire. It kind of gives us that are into crystal healing a bad rap overall as a group, especially if you don’t know how to see the humor in it.  And it can be hard if you don’t know how to defend why you love crystals along with how and why they work so well for many of us.

Because that’s why we’re all attracted to them because we know inherently that they do work.

When you’re able to defend it against people who belittle, or make fun of it, you’re better able to laugh at that, and you feel more confident about the whole thing in general.

So maybe it’s chicken or the egg kind of thing or maybe that’s why I can laugh at it. Then there are many people who do not care what others think at all, and that is wonderful, that’s it, doesn’t affect them, at all. I love that.

However many of us are affected by what others think of us. I’ve got a very good reason why that is, it’s actually hardwired into our brains. It’s an instinctual thing. I’ll explain more in a bit on that.

The bottom line is that we fear others aren’t going to take us seriously.

Are you Hearing this?

That’s a big fear and there’s a good reason for that fear.  Whether you have this fear or not, you may be hearing things like:

  • What is all this crap?
  • How much money did you spend on all these rocks?
  • None of this stuff works, when are you going to learn?
  • Why are you so gullible?
  • Wow much have you spent on all these rocks?

Does that sound familiar?

Or do you have new ones that you’ve recently heard that you’d like to share in the comments below (I like to hear this stuff from you so share with me!)

Does it make you question your crystal fascination?

Does it kind of shake your crystal confidence?

And if it does, I totally get it, because, I’ve been there, I’ve heard it all.

Reptile Brain

I’ve told this story before, but I’m going to tell it here because it makes sense with this whole topic:

One time I went to the doctor’s office and the doc was using the stethoscope and probing around and checking, looking for my heartbeat and I forgot to take the rocks out of my bra. I’d have rocks in my bra, I know I’m not alone. And I forgot to take them out.

She had a complete and total poker face while I told her that “Oh, those are my crystal companions for the day’s energies that I wanted to infuse into my electromagnetic field.”  And she was just, mm hm, you know, went on to the next thing.

Did I sense negative judgment or was that only my perception?  I don’t know but it triggered my ancient reptile brain.

crystal critics

So let’s take a quick detour. This picture shows the limbic system in your brain. It’s called the reptile brain.  So this picture shows your whole brain, obviously, and the base part of your brain, is the ancient reptile brain, and we call it that because this limbic system, (just under the cerebrum), is the extent of what a lizard has for brain function.

Lizards, snakes, the reptile brain, if you’ve ever had a reptile or worked with reptiles, I did quite a bit, they’re very simple, emotionless beings. And the reptile brain is called that because their brain is in charge of just six things. We call them the six Fs. Fight, flight, food or feeding, fear, freezing up, and fornication. You thought I was gonna say something else, didn’t you? 😉

So these are the basic things, it’s really root chakra stuff right, basic things.  But the limbic system is much more powerful than we give it credit for. Yeah it’s basic stuff but it’s supremely powerful because it goes the furthest back. It’s the part of our brain that has the most ancestral lineage going all the way back.

Back to the story with the doctor, that was uncomfy for me at the time, (yeah, even for me), my reptile brain was alive and well. And I’m not saying it’s eradicated all together now, but alive and well back then and I even find it difficult today to explain why I don’t like to talk on a cell phone.

Resistance and Negative Energy

If someone asks me, “Exactly why don’t you like talking on the cell phone, don’t like to use it so much, or have it around you all the time”, I will get into all the nitty-gritty and the science and all of it. But if no one’s asking, I don’t want to come off as preachy.

Now, if you asked about it, or you’re reading my blog that means you’re hear for it, you asked for it, you’re gonna get it. So it’s so much easier to discuss our crystal passions with someone who obviously is receptive and wants to learn about it.

But when they’re not receptive to it, or you have a feeling that they’re not receptive to it, how you explain yourself in those situations is not exactly our idea of a good time… because again, it’s hardwired into us, it’s usually met with resistance or a tinge of ridicule and that’s perceived as negative energy by our reptile brain.

Realize it or not, we instinctively try to avoid those situations at all costs.

So it’s not weird and you’re not considered, like “oh my gosh, you’re so not awake.” if you’re thinking, you have no confidence around this stuff.

Tip number one is to ignore your reptile brain.

Something really unconscious like certain scents can activate certain parts of your brain and spark an intense emotion. And our conscious mind isn’t aware and doesn’t process right away why that is. That’s our reptile brain taking over when that happens.

We have a primal-fear response to anything that’s perceived as disapproval.  Our ancient reptilian is hardwired in auto response to avoid any negative judgment being made on us.  We want to avoid getting kicked out of the tribe so to speak. Being shunned by the clan, that’s basic root chakra stuff coming up.

Yes, we can learn to move past this and rise above it but it takes consistent work.

As a side note, I’ve found that once we get past the hardwired fear and ancient auto response we can show the courage to just be who we are and defend our stance.  The real me is often welcomed with open arms by people you would never expect to welcome it.

So my advice is just own it.

Understand and realize it’s reptile-brain stuff and just own it.

Once people know it’s safe to talk to you about crystals you’ll be surprised how many people come out of the woo-woo closet themselves.  I had lots of experience with this while I was still a science teacher working in the public school system.

For those of you that don’t know, I used to be a science department chair for 13 years. I have lots of experience with that.

Perhaps you think that people in the academic community would be very closed off to this sort of thing but when it’s last-resort time, many would come to me to ask what crystal work they could do to remedy their issue.

2.  Find a Solid Community

This is important. Now some of you are loners and maybe you’re like, “I don’t need no community.” and that’s fine. But even for us loners, of which I am one, once in a while it’s nice to have that solid community along with you, along for the ride.

We all want to feel like we belong to the tribe, right?  We just discussed that, so that no one feels vulnerable and like nobody’s on their side.

Being in a group of other like-minded people who are also nuts for the crystals can be so empowering and supportive because they’ve all going through the same stuff as you and you get to pool resources and information and join forces with them and collaborate on stuff.

We need each other because being part of a community also gives us confidence and strength in our beliefs.

This may also mean that you may need to spend less time or remove yourself completely from hanging out with people who are holding you back and won’t accept who you are.

Besides the truly infinite and immeasurable value of having a community is the fact that you get that built-in motivation, built-in inspiration, and accountability partners when you need them. Without that support system in place you’re going it alone.

It’s hard to go it alone even if you are a seasoned loner, 100% alone. Just to let you know, in my Certified Crystal Healer Course, in addition to your peers and the alumni, you also get reliable mentors I’ve put in place to coach you through. And that’s absent when you go it alone.

Not to mention you can build fabulous, amazing new friendships that spring up from a community like that. It certainly doesn’t have to be my course’s group, there are many out there. On Facebook alone there are face-to-face live groups you can join.

Join a Group

Be mindful.  Don’t go out and join a bunch of different of groups at once. This will spread you too thin and you won’t be able to get the most out of any of the groups. Try to find a group, either in person or online, that has these three things going for them.

Here’s what to look for:

  1. You want mentors who are supportive.
  2. You also want members who are supportive, I’m sure you know how to figure out if they’re supportive or not. The group should offer motivation and inspiration.
  3. The group holds positive vibes. They take this seriously with an active moderator.  Zero tolerance for gossip or negativity.

As I said, it can be an in-person group that meets regularly or a virtual online one.  You can even make one up on your own, but there’s lot of them out there already. Finding a group like this does wonders for allowing you to be you; encouraging you to grow to your full potential.

Additionally it builds crystal confidence; working with your crystals and knowing you have this like-minded, high vibe tribe, who has your back.

Of course, we make sure that my group has all that and more in spades.

3.   Back it up with Science

I have a healthy amount of confidence discussing crystal healing.  I know that’s because I can explain the science behind how and why the crystals work.

And it’s not just for me, I’ve heard this again and again from our over 1,600 graduates now. That this is where their confidence comes from.

Still, science isn’t always the end-all, be-all.  Science doesn’t prove everything or anything but that’s another topic of debate we can get into. 🙂 Despite what some might think there always remains some uncertainty. Science never, 100%, proves anything.

So no, not everything should need a scientific explanation. Nor does everything have one, there’s so many things that don’t have scientific explanations and yet they exist. Crystal healing is one of them.

But like it or not, in today’s world, in our society, science is king. Scientific explanations hold mega value.

Being able to explain something scientifically pulls a lot of weight, that’s why people love to get some science in with their metaphysics. I know, I know, this is exactly why my Certified Crystal Healer Course became so popular right away because there were no other courses doing that and so many people came in and it was like,

“Oh my gosh, science with the crystal healing, this is exactly what I need!”

Because again, being a former science teacher and science department head, I can provide that in spades.

Science is the backbone of my course.

When it comes to explaining crystal healing to others, especially if they’re skeptics, I think we just throw some science at it, and that usually get them to sit up and listen. It opens the door for a skeptic with respect, a respectful door.

Need Help?

I can help you with tips number two and three. Plus I’ve seen number one, which is ignore your reptile brain, come naturally, as a result of providing the science and solid community to my students in my course.

Not to say that you can’t achieve those things on your own without taking my course, you most certainly can. Put your mind to it, put your energy into it, and put your energy towards that goal and you’re going to manifest it.

But if you do want my help, and you want me to help you along on this path as your teacher, registration for my course is open to the public now.

If you’re thinking about it, get in now, because tuition is going to be increasing, because we have to do it, by $500 for our fall term. So if you’re thinking about waiting for it down the line, now is your time and registration’s only open for a short time.

If you’re not on the waitlist and you’d like to get on right now go to hibiscusmoonjoin.com.

I want to wrap this up by giving you two of my favorite quotes to think on all this stuff.

And this is a quote by Arthur Schopenhauer. He’s a German philosopher and he said:

All truth passes through three stages: One, first, it’s ridiculed. Two, second, it’s violently opposed. Three, third is accepted as being self-evident.

And isn’t that true? Isn’t that how all new truths come to be?

One more brilliant quote from my favorite physicist, Nassim Haramein, he said:

We are still in our infancy of exploring and discovering our local environment.

There are people alive today who when they were young were told the universe was many, many times smaller than they’re being told today.

Perhaps this progression will only accelerate when we prove the universe we are in, is only one of an infinite number of other universes in the holo-fractile graphic multiverse.

He’s so deep, I love that guy.

I find getting defensive and negative (as we tend to do because of our reptile brain),  gets us nowhere.  So let’s forget that reaction. Same with clamming up from lack of confidence. It actually feeds the skeptics.

If we want people to hear us, the music needs to be pleasing, right? Otherwise they’re going to slam the door and leave. But I also really secretly love it when you can just smack them skeptics around with some science.  I absolutely love it. It’s just a little thing that naturally happens, it’s kind of funny, but done respectfully always, so let’s keep it like that.

Now, tell me in the comments how can you action one of these three tips TODAY?

Crystal Blessings,

Comments 35

  1. I am not as confident as I would love to be.
    I believe if I were to join and actively participate in a positive community there would be growth.
    Thanks for the tips.

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  2. Loved this conversation and can relate to rejection of my love of crystals. All three tips were very helpful to me. Thank you for all you do to help us understand and use crystals successfully.

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  3. Oh my goodness. I really needed this. One of the main things I’ve been hearing comes from my mom. She has thrown bible scriptures all over me about how I should not be idolizing crystals, although I told her I’m not technically idolizing them. I think along with crystals comes lots of assumptions about it being satanic and such. I’m definitely getting the science down and have thrown that on people lately. If you could explain the science behind crystals to others in like 5 sentences or less, what would you say? Thank you!

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      T.B. firstly, take a look at my classic blog post on religion and crystals here… you might find it interesting: https://hibiscusmooncrystalacademy.com/does-crystal-healing-go-against-your-religion/ As for boiling down the science behind how and why crystals work into 5 sentences, no can do. 😉 That’s why I’ve built an entire course around explaining that. In case you’re interested in my Certified Crystal Healer Course (we’re currently registering new students now) you can take a look here: https://hibiscusmooncrystalacademy.com/cch-enroll/

  4. I just love this and I’ve come across a lot of Skeptics but I’m always up for a good respectful debate.

    I’m still learning and want to learn more

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  5. I’m new to working with crystals in my healing practice and just signed up for your certification program. I find the more authentic I resonate with my passion to serve and assist, the lesser the skepticism. Most of us were not raised with crystal medicine and I know for myself that it will take a bit to integrate. One thing I believe everyone can appreciate is the inherent beauty of stones and crystals, so I start there first. Thank you for forging the way-and bridging science and metaphysics.

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  6. Great article!

    That quote by Nassim Haramein just broke my brain in the best way. I love thinking about the universe when things get stressful in life and thinking about multiverses makes everything that much more interesting.

    Life. Where we think we know everything, but really (like Jon Snow) we know nothing.

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  7. I love that you wrote and shared this, thank you! 🙏🏻 I find coming at it with a sense of wonder, along with science and the fact that we are still constantly learning new things everyday- which simply means we must continue to remain open to new realities, helps further conversations and create balance with skepticism. Grateful for your knowledge, input, and sharing of it. 💗

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  8. I worked in healthcare all my life that is back up by science but the true miracles I saw cannot be backed up by anything. No big pharma or even a doctor touching them at the last minute. I can tell them why crystals have worked for me even for some medical issues.That video was funny. I laughed till I cried. I don’t know why people want try other modalities in the metaphysical society. I’ve experienced alot or try alot of different things. This stuff has been around for centuries even before big pharma. I’m not going to argue with them I’ve always thought out of the box. But if someone threw a crystal at me like the video I’d tell them see they work cleared up my third eye your definitely a morron. Just kidding lol. I only have one person I discuss it with. Would like to share more with people but most think it’s hoodoo I’m doing.

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  9. I have become quieter about crystal healing, as have my daughters, and yes, this is due to having experienced some toxic reactions. Most of my friends have been enthusiastic and curious and I have been much surprized to find who is and who is not! Two of my brothers are physicists; one understands completely and is supportive, and the other suspects I go round on a broom at night! A supportive community would be helpful, and for me… grounding as well.

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    2. I just found you this past week, and already I have been blessed with knowledge you have shared that I have been searching for a long time!
      ~~May You Walk The Road In Beauty ~~ Lloyd

  10. Hey HM,

    Yes, have heard many of the snide remarks and those who scoff not only crystal study but most anything they don’t take the time to educate themselves. Honestly, I could care less what others believe or think. For those persistent in trying to shake one’s faith in whatever, I hand out a toll free number, 1-800-who gives a sh*t! I know it’s trying, nobody likes to be judged or labelled an outcast. Find what works for each person, indulge in those interests. Many who try and tear you down are for the most part those with a great deal of insecurities in their own lives.

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  11. I have been surrounded by crystals for over 25 years. I have never consciously worked with crystal healing, but I would find myself giving a person one of my crystals and asking them if they would carry it for good luck.
    Not so many open minds back then, every esoteric shop that opened in my town, was eventually driven out.
    I was judged and ridiculed for my choices (I always wore a crystal necklace with a small feather) – and chose to learn Usui Reiki also. Those 2 choices, combined, made it so difficult for me to withstand the peer pressure and judgement. I always wondered if I somehow attracted these people to me!
    I closed all of my internal doors and packed my crystals away for years.
    Eventually the Universe knocked and put some reading material in my path. I quietly studied about crystals and absorbed every book I could find.
    When people finally did start asking me questions, I told them I was not the person to speak with, I had acquired my knowledge alone and that’s the way I preferred it.
    I’d recommend books for them but kept my love of the sparkly world to myself!
    Now, when someone is snotty toward the subject, I ask them one question. What is their passion. Everyone has an answer. Everyone. I then tell them that crystals are mine and when they are truly interested, I’ll speak with them. I REFUSE to defend my choices. I answer to no one and do not owe a single person an explanation.
    I have the full love and support of my husband and my son and that is a mighty amazing feeling. 🙂

    I have been waiting for over TWO decades to find you and your course! Your blogs touch on so many aspects of my experiences.
    It really hurt to be so alone in my passion for crystals.
    After hard work and so much study…I am very confident amongst crystals and minerals now. But I don’t back down from critics 😉
    OH! The number one thing others say to me is “don’t you have enough rocks?!! Exactly how many do you need!!”
    I usually say “all of them” with a big smile 🙂
    Peace and light to you and everyone here. 🙏

  12. Hi,

    I echo TB with their comments. My mum was the worst for ridiculing anything I found an interest in and would laugh out loud at anything I tried to discuss with her. I eventually stopped talking to her about anything and found I just listened to her when I visited. She was (no longer with us) a Jehovah’s Witness from when my dad died and this way of life formed the basis of all her opinions. There was a lot of reference to Satan’s work. It felt like I had lost my mother and my father in one fell swoop.

    I have been “collecting “ crystals and minerals for as long as she has been gone – 13 years now. I have also been selling some and find this is my way of being in the crystal world and has found me in touch with like minded beautiful people. I much value all of the communications I have from people who buy from me and this is where I feel I have a connection with a community. I am truly blessed.

    Hibiscus Moon – I love all your newsletters, but don’t do Facebook or instagram or anything like that, so might be missing out there? Maybe one day….

  13. This entire article was FANTASTIC! I loved it, very fact, every word, every idea. You are one superstar lady. Thank you so much for sharing so much with so many – it is freestyle appreciated.

  14. Sorry there are a few typos in my reply I tried to redo but it would not let me delete or edit – no problem though as long as you know I really enjoyed and appreciated this! 😍

  15. I absolutely adore my crystals, and how they resonate with me. I love the science behind it all too… and I know that talking with confidence using the science really helps add validity to my comments. I’ve got to the point now where I don’t really care what other people think! But, clearly, it’s good if they appreciate my thoughts and are open to my crystal kookiness. I loved crystals from an early age but had a bit of a gap due to some rather challenging life circumstances. So glad to be back in the crystal embrace and love this supportive community. Thank you for all you do and for this fabulous article too.

  16. Awesome!! Thank you. I feel this way about most things in life. In order to inspire others fully, I must be fully confident. It is not enough to say, “it just works”, if there is evidence on HOW it works. For me to encourage the belief in others, they should be adequately armed with information as well. If there is a way to know how something works and I am using that thing to affect other people’s lives, it is my responsibility to learn it. I am excited about starting the course in March.

  17. Sacred.

    I love crystals, but don’t have as much knowledge as I would like. I have my favs but other than that I have read and researched but the knowledge just does not hang around.

  18. Hibiscus,
    Your 3rd tip about backing up my crystal passion with Science is exactly the reason why I am taking your CCH course ☯️ I want to learn to be more #CrystalConfident supported by science to shut down the critics [the majority of them]. Some people are going to be critical no matter what you do/what you know but that is their issue. I proudly wear my “Woo Hoo” crown and don’t let comments about being “woo woo” get under of my skin.
    I would have to say that I get more skepticism from certain family members despite my crystal confidence and I simply laugh at them in my head. I really don’t care about their perspectives because they don’t pay any of my bills and would never be clients of mine anyway. My mother, husband, children and grandchildren support my crystal passion and that’s good enough for me. I have always been a bit of an outsider so I simply brush off the negativity and judgement from others no matter who they are.

  19. Hibiscus, I ordered a piece of Shungite from a site in PA. What I received was a very dull black piece that when touched, leaves a very fine black powder residue on my hands and whatever else it touches. I’ve never seen shungite, so if it’s not, what is it? It reminds me of a charcoal briquet. Does anyone else have any idea? Thanks.

    1. Shungite is basically carbon. One of the brightest features of authentic shungite as a stone is that it is electrically conductive. You can take a battery, bulb and two wires and make a line of electricity coming from battery to bulb with one of the wires being connected to battery and another to a bulb with a shungite stone between them. If shungite it authentic it will conduct electricity and the bulb lightens due to the high carbon content in shungite.
      Wash shungite pieces carefully under the warm water to get rid of the post-production micro dust and powder as well as to cleanse the stones before usage.

  20. Hibiscus Moon I so love your blogs and insightful information. Now the crystals almost yell at me when I ask what to use next! Have so much personal proof of the healing powers of crystals that I can show and tell my Crystal Corner visitors about. Best incident was of a lady wanting crystals for a friends son, in a coma for 12 weeks. She said his mother would take in the crystals, she must have because – a few weeks later, I got a phone call to say not only was the lad out of the coma but he was back home with his family. We are indeed privileged to work with our stone family. I usually say to those ‘Christian’ visitors that God does not make anything for nothing, we just need to understand how to use it! Thank you.

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