Empath Everyday Survival Guide: Crystals + Secrets for Sensitive Souls

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I’m so excited to bring this to you, because I recently did a poll on YouTube, asking what you guys wanted to hear about most and the topic crystals to help Empaths was high on the list.

We’re going to cover Empath Everyday Survival Guide, (but if you’re brand new to crystals you might be interested in reading this first).  This blog is all about crystals and secrets for sensitive souls. The goal is to avoid emotional hangovers, exhaustion, and sensory overload. Plus you can grab my Free Recipe for Negativity Neutralizer Spray.

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I’m right there with you guys.

  • When you’re with a lot of people, do you feel like you have no shield up between you and them? Or do you classify yourself as a sensitive soul, a sensitive person? Do you find yourself often in situations where you get energetically exhausted?
  • Are you a lightworker, an energy worker, or a bodyworker of any kind, massage therapist? This kind of work with others can zap the energy right out of you if you don’t know how to mitigate that. It’s essential to protect yourself and protect your energy, with an energetic shield of protection. Crystals can help you to do that.
  • Do you ever feel unexplainably uncomfortable with an environment, a place, the situation, a person? Do you get those feelings often? That’s your sign that you’re picking up on something that’s in disharmony with you. It might not feel that way to everyone else, but it’s in disharmony with you.

What’s an Empath?
I looked in several different places to find a good definition and found this one on Urban Dictionary. (I love that dictionary…for some things, it’s quite funny)
An empath, defined there at Urban Dictionary, is a person who is capable of feeling the emotions of others, despite the fact that they themselves are not going through the same situation.
Highly Sensitive People
Empaths, or highly sensitive people, can feel everything, to an extreme, more so than others. That’s okay if it doesn’t bother you if it’s not affecting you. But if it is, it can lead to feeling tired, feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, sensory overload, stressed out, or general anxiety.

So many of us are feeling anxiety, and overall feeling too much and that can lead to adrenal burnout.

This scenario is kind of like a chicken or the egg quandary. Is anxiety leading to adrenal fatigue or is adrenal fatigue leading to anxiety? There’s evidence going both ways. Adrenal burn out is a place you don’t want to be, because that can generate anxiety and panic attacks, in and of itself.

Being an empath, with the ability to pick up on, and feel, experience, the energy of others can be seen as a gift, because that extra information, that extra data you’re getting, can allow you to empathize with others or see things from another point of view.

On the other hand, it can be seen as a curse.

If you’re suffering side-effects from being an empath, you might be viewing it as a curse because it’s causing you to be bombarded with these extra feelings and emotions you might not even want to be dealing with, because it’s not your stuff.
We’re beings of energy and therefore we are affected by energy. We’re made of these trillions of cells, transmitting and receiving energy, all the time.
Students in my certified crystal healer course, know I love Dr. Bruce Lipton. He’s a developmental biologist. Lipton says that our cell membranes are liquid crystal semiconductors, made of silica.

That’s what quartz is made out of, silicon dioxide. These liquid crystal semiconductors have these gates and channels that open and close. They selectively let some stuff in, and they selectively keep some stuff out.

Dr. Lipton says that our DNA scans our environment for relevant frequencies and then reshapes itself accordingly. We can see this happening under a microscope. If we think about this, you bring the right crystal into that environment, and you can adjust your cell’s perception filters and transmute the energy of your environment.
The goal here, for the Empaths and the sensitive souls, is to create an environment that makes you feel good.
We want to steer clear of becoming overstimulated and overwhelmed.

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You’re like, “Yeah, great. How do I do that?”

Two things:

  •  Be highly selective of the situations and environments you place yourself in. We don’t have control over everything, but we have control over some of the things, so be highly selective of those things.
  • Have tools and supports at the ready. Like, crystals and stones, to help mitigate when you don’t have control over those situations.
  • Certainly, we can work with crystals, as our friends, our allies, as tools and supports, to assist us in achieving this goal. I always say that you can do this without crystals, but crystals are a tool.

    The physics definition of a tool is something that allows you to do the work with less effort, with less energy.  So, if you’d like the extra assistance, and if you already love crystals, why not use them as an ally in doing this? Work together with them.

    From that perspective, we can work with crystals to transmute and neutralize. Some crystals can neutralize and transmute the energetic frequencies, so they don’t carry specific frequencies that resonate with those bad feelings.

    Empath Crystals
    Here are a few of my favorite crystals for empaths.

    1.   Black Tourmaline

    Everybody loves black tourmaline. Everybody probably has a piece of black tourmaline. Black tourmaline is great for transmuting energy. It’s wonderful for that.

    2.  Smokey Quartz

    Smokey quartz is great for not only transmuting the negative energy but detoxifying an environment. Detoxifying anything, even your body. Now, you want to work with true smokey quartz, not irradiated smokey quartz.  Some have a rich coffee brown like mine below which is from Namibia, Africa.

    If it looks almost black, chances are it’s irradiated. Yeah, it’s giving off radiation.  Get out your Geiger counter, and stay away from it.

    3.  Amethyst

    I have one I always keep near my workspace. The one I have next to my desk is a grape jelly amethyst, from Uruguay. It’s an absolute beauty.

    Now, you don’t have to have all of these crystals. These are just a few that I like most for this purpose. You can choose to work with one or two of them.

    4.  Purple Jade

    When you go to a gem show, and you’re looking for purple jade, it’s probably going to be rough, and in a bucket of water, because the water brings out the color.

    When you cut and polish purple jade for lapidary purposes, it stays that color that it looks like when it’s wet.

    Purple Jade is beautiful. It is rare making it harder to find. This stone is about spiritual knowledge and associated, of course, with the crown chakra and the third eye chakra. But, interestingly enough, it’s also associated with the earth star chakra, which is about six inches below our feet. So, it’s very grounding for us and a great protective stone for Empaths.

    It’s not super expensive. The example I show in the video is pretty large and rough, and it’s meant for people who are going to be doing lapidary jewelry, due to that it goes for about $100.

    5.  Lodestone

    Lodestone which is magnetic magnetite. Not all magnetite still retains its magnetic properties, but we like magnetic magnetite, which we call lodestone, because of that natural magnetic energy.

    The magnetite can balance the polarities within our EMF field, within our auric field. Thereby, it’s going to help strengthen, stabilize, and balance your energy field, while helping with any kind of psychic overload or taking on too much. Like, the energy picked up by bodyworkers, lightworkers, energy workers.

    6.  Sugilite

    You can call on the energy of Archangel Michael when working with Sugilite because this stone aligns itself well and allows you to work more closely with Archangel Michael to create an energetic shield of protection around you. Furthermore, sugilite helps balance your electromagnetic field, enhances the third eye and crown chakra as well, and is great with assisting to keep up that shield.

    7.  Black Obsidian

    I usually advise to only go to black obsidian if you feel like you need some powerful protection like you’re calling on a bodyguard. Because it tends for the majority of people, to bring them down to a low, low state if they’re not in need of the heavy duty kind of protection. Therefore it’s a good idea to be discriminating when choosing whether or not you should work with black obsidian.

    You don’t want to ground too much and bring in, maybe, a low-grade depression, or things like that, if you’re not prepared for the work that black obsidian does. I would only really use this if something major serious is going on and you need a really big boost of protection.

    Next, I want to tell you about some specific ways you can work with these crystals so that you can use them effectively.
    Because, reading about what crystal is good for this, what crystal is good for that, is great, but if you never actually put them to use, you’re just circling the base of the mountain and never getting to the peak. Right?
    It’s a lateral move.

    You’re not taking a step forward; you’re not getting closer to the mountain peak. So it’s no use to know the correspondences, but have no practical ways to work them into your everyday life.
    Survival Guide for Empaths
    I like to always give practical everyday uses for crystals, and so I’m going to share a highly effective, crystal shielding visualization technique and other tips below.
    Meditate
    One thing you can do is meditate with any of these crystals. Even just spending five minutes in meditation, just paying attention to deep breathing, just feeling your breath. There’s nothing to do. Just sit there with a crystal, either in hand, or put it on your heart chakra, and sit in meditation.

    Set the intention, at the beginning of your meditation, that this is going to help transmute the energy that’s entering your electromagnetic field.
    Protect Your Space
    Another thing you can do is create a protective transmuting shield around your home, or your workspace, or wherever you might be, even in a car. You can place larger crystals in specific locations, like one near your front door, one near the back door.

    Or you can go around to the four corners of your property. Most properties have four corners, some are oddly shaped and might have more, but one at each corner of the property, and create an outdoor grid for your home. I like black tourmaline for that. That’s my favorite stone for doing that.
    Empath Visualization Technique
    The crystal shielding visualization technique, this is a crystal-induced energetic safeguard that’s going to help shield you from anything that you sense as harmful, or anxiety-inducing, or just stress causing. You feel it as negative or toxic in some way. This technique is also helpful at work or if you’re being cornered by a negative relative at a gathering.

    We’re getting ready to go into the holiday season, lots of socializing, lots of different people and obligations. Think of this visualization as a protection, or a shield, a literal energetic shield. It’s highly effective in helping you create boundaries where you get to neutralize any negative forces, or perceived negative forces.

    How many of you are science fiction geeks, like me, and remember, “shields up” in Star Trek? “Shields up.” Well, you can even say that when you’re getting ready to do this crystal shielding visualization technique. It’s just, “Shields up.”

    Next, you’re going to close your eyes and connect to your breath. Feel the breath going in and out, as you allow your body’s electromagnetic field to merge with the electromagnetic field of the crystal, or crystals, in your hand.  You’re allowing them to entrain, or influence, your energy, as you build up your energetic shield.

    Now, picture a strong, impenetrable large egg-shaped force field of energy enveloping your body. It’s large, going as far out as your arms can reach, to your sides, in front of you, and several feet above your head, and below your feet, all around. This large energetic egg-shaped force field.

    Finally, within the protection of this shield, feel the intention of being grounded, stable, and centered.  The crystals are going to help you achieve that.
    Empath Mojo Kit
    Also, keep a little pouch with a tumbled black tourmaline. I say tumbled, because when you keep a pouch of crystals together, they tend to rub together and kind of ruin the aesthetics, break off little chips, and things like that. When you go with tumbled stones, for little kits, tumbled stones tend to maintain their integrity longer, better.

    So you can keep a little pouch with a tumbled black tourmaline, or smokey quartz, maybe two of each, one of each, it doesn’t matter, in your pocket, or your backpack, or your purse. Someplace where it just becomes part of the stuff that goes out with you.

    Alternatively, you may want to make several of these so you can have one at work, in a desk drawer, one at home, and one in your car.  Whenever you feel like you need the shields up, pull the stones out and place them in your hands.
    Earthing
    Another option is to get grounded by earthing. How do you do that? Take your shoes off and put your feet on the ground. If it’s too cold to do that, take your gloves off, put your bare hands on a tree.  Likewise, hug a tree.  That’s also grounding and earthing, connecting with the earth’s energy.

    In short, earthing helps to dissipate excess positive ions and physically ground you, electrically ground you to the planet.
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    Do you think more of us are identifying as empaths than ever before? Are you or those around you dealing with emotional hangovers? Have any tips to share with our Crystal Family?  Please let me know in the comments below.

    Crystal Blessings,

    How to tell the Difference between Black Onyx, Jet, Apache Tear, Black Tourmaline & Black Obsidian

    Hibiscus Moon Crystals, grounding, protection 97 Comments

    A common question I get from my students in my Certified Crystal Healer Course is:
    How to tell the difference between our many shiny black tumbled stones.
    There are several common ones that all polish up pretty shiny, making it almost impossible to tell them apart; both physically & sometimes even energetically.

    But there are slight differences & I’m going to tell you what to look for right here. 

    I’m going to focus on the 5 most common ones:

    • Jet
    • Obsidian
    • Apache Tear
    • Onyx
    • Black Tourmaline

    As most black stones usually are, all 5 of these are considered to generally be energetically grounding, protective & usually resonating well with either the Earth Star Chakra or Root Chakra

    Now let’s get into the subtle differences…

    Non-Mineral Stuffs
    I’ve divided the stones into 2 sub-groups of “non-mineral” & “mineral”.

    The non-minerals, although usually lumped in with the rest of the crystals, are not technically minerals, b/c they don’t have 1 very important aspect that all minerals must have: a crystalline atomic matrix, a repeating geometric pattern among their atoms.
    Jet
    Jet is not a crystal/mineral…it lacks a crystalline structure. Why? B/c it originates from a once living thing; a tree.  So it’s organic & not a mineral at all.  It’s actually considered to be coal & forms when pieces of wood from a tree get buried in sediment and get “coalified”. This is a process that took place a looooong time ago; we’re talking literal Jurassic Period here. 

    [caption id="attachment_18763" align="aligncenter" width="600"] Raw Jet – By Geni (Photo by user:geni) [GFDL (http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/fdl.html) or CC BY-SA 4.0-3.0-2.5-2.0-1.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0-3.0-2.5-2.0-1.0)], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]Under a microscope you can actually see the old tree’s cell walls! Pretty cool.

    B/c of this cell-wall kind of structure it’s very lightweight & that’s one of your clues when comparing it to their black stones. Pick it up & compare its weight in your hands. It almost feels like plastic, it’s so light.

    Although it’s usually pretty dull in its raw form, it can be polished up to a high luster & be quite shiny (as you can see in my above picture where its shown compared to other black stones). Another tell-tale clue is that jet can sort of look a bit dark-silvery-metallic (sort of like a really dark hematite).

    Energetically, jet is known to be safely grounding + purifying while also being protective…in a gentle, non-forceful way.
    Black Obsidian
    Obsidian, another non-mineral, is a volcanic glass, born literally of forceful fiery energy.

    Birthed in a volcanic eruption when molten lava spews up from a volcano, obsidian flies out & then cools quickly once it touches the cooler land or much cooler water, sometimes forming teeny bubbles within…and cooling much too quickly for its atoms to arrange themselves in the necessary crystalline atomic structure to qualify as a mineral. This makes it a glass & not a crystal. 

    So your clue here is that all obsidian (not just the black variety) will be very smooth, shiny & glassy-looking.

    If you’re looking at a rough natural piece as in my above photo (where I’m comparing all of these black stones), you’ll notice that obsidian usually has a conchoidal fracture: a geeky-geo-term for a curved break off point when the obsidian gets chipped away.

    Can you see that conchoidal fracture in the below pic?

    [caption id="attachment_18764" align="aligncenter" width="600"] Rough Obsidian – By Ji-Elle (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]If you’re comparing obsidian to onyx (2 that are quite often confused), obsidian will be the lighter weight of the 2 b/c it’s less dense than onyx (due to the lack of crystalline structure & interior air bubbles) and can even be translucent in spots if you hold it up to the light…something really hard to capture in a photo for me…but I tried in the below photo. See how the sunlight can shine through it & you can even see some layering on the bottom right?

    Remember that obsidian is volcanic glass so it has a direct fiery energy to it. Perhaps due to how it originates, I feel it’s not gentle in its ways at all. Generally, it’s a pretty powerful stone.

    CAUTION: If you feel that you’re very emotionally fragile or vulnerable, I recommend you try another stone choice instead. 

    Now this may not be true for everyone, so it’s not a blanket statement.
    You really need to work with it yourself to know EXACTLY how it will affect you.
    Obsidian is great for quick & powerful grounding, cleansing away deep or stubborn negative feelings & when you need POWERFUL psychic protection. Again, I do caution people to only use it when you need a really powerful punch & not to work with it for too long…unless you already know that you can work with it safely with no adverse effects. 
    Apache Tear
    Apache Tear is really a sub-group or type of obsidian; essentially the same stone, both made of volcanic glass and black in color. However, Apache Tears are black obsidian that formed by being thrown up into the air giving them a much less glassy & more rough appearance.

    [caption id="attachment_18765" align="aligncenter" width="600"] Apache Tear – By Simon Eugster –Simon 20:06, 14 April 2006 (UTC) (Own work) [GFDL (http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/fdl.html), CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/) or CC BY-SA 2.5-2.0-1.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.5-2.0-1.0)], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]Whereas black obsidian is known to be a very powerful stone, Apache Tears are gentler in their energy & good for less forceful emotional cleansing like working through grief… b/c it’s much lighter & gentler in its energy it’s great for emotional clearing while also being grounding & protective.
    The Inorganic Stuffs – True Minerals
    These next stones are the real-deal minerals. All minerals have a crystalline structure at the atomic level where their atoms are stacked in a precise repeating geometric pattern. So these guys are more stable & can more efficiently influence your energetic field.
    Onyx
    When you hold a piece of onyx, one thing you’ll note is the density & “weighti-ness” of it. Between 2 similar sized pieces of onyx & obsidian…which can look very similar, the onyx will be heavier b/c it has an actual crystalline structure, whereas obsidian does not…with its random molecules & air bubbles. 

    Onyx tends to have a slightly duller finish, but can polish up to be quite glassy! So don’t rely on that alone. Onyx may also have some banding & white-ish or grey-ish spots, but usually no translucency.

    [caption id="attachment_18766" align="aligncenter" width="600"] Onyx – By Simon Eugster –Simon 14:41, 11 April 2006 (UTC) (Own work) [GFDL (http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/fdl.html), CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/) or CC BY-SA 2.5-2.0-1.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.5-2.0-1.0)], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]Onyx, being a true mineral, does indeed have that crystalline structure at the atomic level. Why? Well, it had the time to form one, growing slowly underground, as crystals do.

    Onyx’ energy for me, while protective is more about grounding & strengthening. It’s also wonderful for boosting your willpower & discipline
    Black Tourmaline
    Black tourmaline is a fav of mine & 1 of the crystals I use in my sacred grounding trio.

    In it’s natural form (as seen below), black tourmaline is hard to confuse with the others I’ve listed here.

    But when it’s tumbled it can be hard to pick out b/c it polishes up relatively well…but usually not perfectly & that’s how I usually tell it from the others. You’ll often see some divots & possibly some rust from its iron content too.

    Energetically, black tourmaline is a go-to negativity neutralizer for me. B/c it has piezoelectric & pyroelectric proprieties it’s able to transduce energy quite effectively! If you’re looking for a great crystal for protection & purification that isn’t too intense…this is the one.

    So there you are.

    I hope you find this info to a be a helpful resource that you’ll be able to refer back to when needed!

    Can you tell the difference now?  Do you have these stones in your crystal collection and now you know how to identify them on the fly? Talk to me in the Comments below! I’d love to hear about your favorite black crystal. 🙂

    Crystal Blessings,

    Why Volcanic Crystals are More Tempting than a Cinnabon

    Hibiscus Moon geology, science 5 Comments

    So Cinnabon’s are tempting. I stay away from them like the plague, but tempt me, they do…none the less.

    Curse you, Cinnabon!

    Volcanic crystals are also indeed very tempting…once you understand a bit more about them.

    More than a cinnabon, you ask?

    I think so, yes. And after you check out this week’s blog post, I think you will too. And, unlike, a cinnabon, they’re good for you!

    Here’s an interesting crystal-question to ponder:

    In this week’s video I go over why we need not be concerned with the “volcanic” origin & perhaps…it’s that very thing that makes them so tempting!

    So first of all, not all crystals & stones will be categorized as “gentle & protective” when of volcanic origin.

    When we think of “volcanic” we thing of “fiery”, “explosive”…so I totally get where this question is coming from, BTW.
    GEO GEEK WARNING!
    Most crystals have a volcanic origin, either directly or indirectly. If you take a look at the rock cycle,  you’ll see that…b/c everything on the Mama Earth’s crust (that’s not man-made) comes through the mantle, through the upheaval in a volcanic eruption or from plate boundary zones  then goes through different processes that happen in the rock cycle.

    They morph as they churn through different parts of the rock cycle.

    There’s lots happening & at some point  any mineral or rock that you may be holding has probably been a part of the volcanic part of the rock cycle.

    Examples of DIRECTLY Volcanic Crystals
    1. Peridot. You can find peridot quickly forming & tumbling down directly from the volcano. I wrote an entire blog post on the massive peridot-fever that I caught. You can check out here.

    2. Sulfur is another very direct result of volcanic activity, a powerful stone. If you’re interested in learning more about sulfur, watch this video I created for you on Crystal Healing with Sulfur

    3. Obsidian. (any kind of obsidian) all the direct result of volcanic activity. Black Obsidian is considered to be very forceful & powerful. Snowflake obsidian not so much. Mahogany obsidian, again not so much. So they are considered gentler. And then, there are other crystals that are indeed considered gentle & are a direct result from volcanic activity.

    Diamond is another direct result of volcanic activity found deep, deep, deep in the earth, hence it’s extreme Mohs Hardness. Diamond is a Mohs Hardness of 10. That’s the highest & the hardest mineral you are going to find.

    [caption id="attachment_17916" align="aligncenter" width="600"] Rob Lavinsky, iRocks.com – CC-BY-SA-3.0 [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]When I went to answer this question, I was thinking…
    Do we really want to correlate those 2 things; gentleness & volcanic origin? B/c when you think about it, the entire Earth, not just every rock & mineral, but the entire earth is born of volcanism &/or just as volatile tectonic activity.
    In fact, there are very gentle things on the Earth that have come from volcanic/tectonic activity.
    For example fields; agriculture, where things grow really, really well growing where the soil is quite fertile, this is a direct result of volcanic ash.  In the foothills  of a volcano you will have the best agricultural growing areas for just about ANYTHING.

    The most abundant & vibrant, negative-ion-filled forests grow there as well. There are many waterfalls due to this volatile activity…and then, of course there are the CRYSTALS.

    So from a violent event emerges all this wonderful energy, beneficial for us in so many ways. And perhaps, that’s exactly why they are so tempting to us…that direct volcanic energy. Kind of like the “bad boy” thing that some of us are attracted to.*whistling*

    So are ya with me now? More tempting than a Cinnabon? Hmmmm?

    What do you think? It makes a great discussion so please leave your examples, opinions & thoughts in the comments and we’ll have ourselves a Crystal Hottie convo.

    Crystal Blessings!