Another uncomfy blog post for me, this one. But I’m gonna write it anyway.
So, this world of being a lightworker…it’s not meant for everyone.
And there’s no judgment on my part on you if you’re not cut out for it yourself & I’m certainly not perfect on this path.
DISCLAIMER: I’m taking a risk here again…but I feel it needs to be addressed. I am not looking to start a firestorm here at all but just state my opinion. It doesn’t mean that my opinion is the best 1 or the only 1, its just mine, that’s all.
PLEASE NOTE: Flaming will not be tolerated here. This is a negativity-free zone. (Although I enjoy a healthy & mature debate be forewarned that any nasty, negative or demeaning comments here on MY BLOG will be promptly deleted so don’t waste your energy…go post it on your own blog.)
Are You Cut Out To Be a Lightworker?
If you don’t have a good handle or control over your emotions, over checking yourself before you react then…you may not be ready to go out there & be a teacher, be a healer, spread light. I feel that you need to remember to be in heart center as much as you possibly can.♥
I was recently reminded of this quote from Martin Luther King, Jr. (a true light worker):
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
The sentiment & the point behind that quote is so needed in today’s world & more people need to learn this & I need to remember it more often.
So, if someone’s doing something that you absolutely detest, that you abhor, that you spend your time & energy trying to get rid of it…it’s a cause that you champion & you throw money at it & you donate time to it…because you really can’t stand it: you know…like children in the sex slave industry or dolphins being abused & forced to perform in shows and, and, and…my goodness it can go on & on & on….HOW DO YOU REACT TOWARDS THEM?
Some of us get extremely passionate about things like that. Rightly so! And it’s great & wonderful & needed to be passionate about it, because we need people like you to be passionate about it, in order to get everybody aware, then riled up & get rid of it!
But if you’re going to be passionate & hateful…full of anger about it: what do you think you’re going to do to the people that are making you angry, the people that are doing things that you feel are wrong, that are making this hate swell up in you?
You’re going to amplify it
Hate will beget more hate.
Anger will beget more anger.
You getting dark about it is going to get them darker about it. You’re not going to get them to learn anything! See your side? Now, you’ve blinded them! What’s worse? You’re not going to change anything. You’re just putting more anger into the world.
Now, think about it: if you’re able to, have the wisdom & control to suppress that anger & that hate & approach it with love…as passionate as you are about that topic, whatever it is…
The person that’s causing that anger to develop inside you might actually listen. They might learn something from you & the seed of a change in perspective might get planted.
I feel that’s the best way. That’s your best bet in getting them to listen & to learn & to change things for the better.
Like I said before, I am not perfect in this, but it’s something I strive for & that I am aware of.
Some of you don’t agree with this at all. And that’s OK. Some may even get mad at me for saying it. (But please don’t get angry here as this is my home & keep it very clean).
So now, think about how it would be if you were to approach that person or the topic in general..that person or topic that is doing the wrong towards that thing that you’re passionate about…but approach it with love.
Love will change things, Sweet Pea.
So in being a lightworker…this is a quote from Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor that I feel is so appropriate for us to remember:
“Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space.”
This is on my wall in front of me right now. This message is literally in my face today in many ways. It’s our mantra here @ HMCA & we take it very seriously. ❤
I take that quote a little further & say “Please be responsible for the energy you bring into any transaction“. Here, at the Academy we take that statement very seriously. Its even in our Code of Ethics as Crystal Healers that we agree to abide by.
And a transaction is not just about money. Its about transacting energy. It’s about interacting with other people, with another being. Any interaction:
- coming into a space
- speaking with someone
- exchanging services
- exchanging a look
- exchanging a book. (Is this starting to sound like Dr. Seuss?)
But, please be responsible for the energy you bring into a transaction of any sort.
Not everybody gets to graduate as a Hibiscus Moon Certified Crystal Healer just because they enrolled in my course. Just like in a University that has any integrity (& a lot of them are losing that these days), if you don’t uphold the values & principles of that University, or you don’t get the grades that you need, you show poor behavior, poor character; you’re not going to graduate from that institution. And rightly so. Because where would the integrity go while the other people that have graduated & earned a degree from that University did do all to uphold that integrity? The clout that that degree carries, the expectations behind it would be completely absent if anybody who paid the bill got to graduate. How unethical would that be? It would cheapen it for everybody & everyone would know that the diploma was meaningless. It would be a joke if you showed up with a degree from Yale if everybody could get one just by paying for it!
So, I feel very strongly that there should be accountability, assessment, integrity & showing a good example with any institution that a lightworker graduates & earns credentials from. That’s just how I feel. And I feel confident in saying that our Hibiscus Moon Certified Crystal Healers feel the same way. They feel very strongly & very proud about the certification they received from HMCA because of that.
90 Seconds to Happiness
No, this isn’t some middle school make-out game! Ha!
So, something’s got you upset & you’re about to exchange words with someone – & I recently learned this…my beloved Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor says to “Take 90 seconds” – she calls it “90 Seconds to Happiness”. You take 90 seconds to process before you react. This gives time for your “anger hormones” that auto-trigger you to flow through your system & dissipate. The key is to REMEMBER to do it…that’s the hard part. The other part is easy, right?
I then recommend (if you can remember…and boy do I try) ask yourself,
“Am I coming from heart center? Is this reaction coming from a place of compassion & understanding?”
– Some of you like to call it Christ Consciousness.
“Is this reaction going to allow for the greatest good for all involved? Does this reaction have nothing to do with the person or being I’m about to react with?”
Could it be something else is going on causing you to react in an inappropriate way to this situation?
For instance, you’re a lightworker, teacher or healer & you’re about to work with a client or facilitate a circle & you’re reacting to something that happened previously or has triggered something; has nothing to do with this person. Check that energy at the door! You must be able to do this.
I feel that if you don’t have the ability to do that on a regular basis, not every single time, but on a regular basis (70% of the time) then you need to work on that before you work on others.
Has someone ever warned you, “Hey, you know, you’re being a little negative, or over-reacting, can we check that?” Does that just make you more angry? Very defensive & you have no control over that? Then, you may not be ready to do this work.
And I’m sorry if this offends you, and I’m sorry if this pushes your buttons and I’m sorry if this triggers you. But, if it does, there’s something to look at there.
I feel we do need to have control of these emotions about 70% of the time if you really want to do this work. No, it’s not for everybody. And that’s OK.
We all need to work on this
And for some reason, this is harder to do with those we feel most comfy with. Boy, do I know that! With those we’re more guarded with we simply behave better. Yeah, I’m pointing the finger at myself. Some are in better control & don’t have to work as hard. I strive for that & am working on it everyday.
So, how often is this your issue? Do you have a lot of conflicts with a lot of different people, often? You know, is there a lot of conflict going on between you & most of the people in your life? Then maybe we need to look within.
You can’t change all those people. Yeah, they might be difficult. You can’t do a single thing to change them.
The only thing you can change is you & your choices & your reactions. That’s the only thing you have power over.
No, we’re not all cut out to do this. It’s not for everybody. But I do think that everybody has it within them to change that….IF THEY WANT TO.
Please do feel free to share your stories, comments & respectful opinions below. I want to hear what you think & so do others, Lima Bean!